Bernd
2021-03-04 01:11:39 ⋅ 3y
No. 111311
Does Bernd want to marry?
What is the perfect age for marrying?
Personally, I wish to marry before I turn 25 and have kids before 27-28. I am 23 now.
Being young when your children are teenagers and being ~50 when the last one leaves your house sounds a lot better than having your last kid at 40 and almost being dead once they leave you.
Marrying wect tire late in life also means that there will be a small chance of even seeing your grandchildren for more than 5-10 years.
So, why is it common to marry later and later?
The way I see it, it is because people nowadays are full of demands and "standards".
The fear of ruining your life by marrying the wrong person is bigger than the trust in a young partner that no matter what comes will be at your side, like it was common for our grandparents' generation.
Bernd
2021-03-04 05:45:29 ⋅ 3y
No. 111318
I would marry but you see, I'm missing a woman, land, a house, a garden, a career and I want ten kids. Not many woomans want more than one to four.
First I just want to travel more and get wasted on narcotics before becoming my archetype.
Bernd
2021-03-04 06:23:50 ⋅ 3y
No. 111319
>>111311
I don't really understand what all the fuss is. Marriage just seems to be one of those things that people do because they saw lots of movies of it and how 'special' it is.
Bernd
2021-03-04 06:49:46 ⋅ 3y
No. 111320
There is so much I want to do still that can't be done with kids and most women.
I also don't like to compromise about my free time. I don't even know where I would take the time to meet a woman. Just the thought of having to go somewhere after work and then coming home late in the evening drains me.
Also: I am a fat, lazy and depressed piece of shit.
Bernd
2021-03-04 09:04:31 ⋅ 3y
No. 111324
>Does Bernd want to marry?
Getting married isn't really fashionable here in Slovenia. I assume because our law recognises "common law marriage" (marriage by habit and repute) as legally equivalent to a formal marriage in almost all matters, and prenuptial contracts were illegal until very recently, so couples don't really have an incentive to formalise their union. That considered, the 60% out of wedlock childbirth rate one can find for Slovenia, that holier-than-thou trads on the internet love to deride so much, isn't driven by single mothers or such but by couples who can't be arsed to arrange a marriage. Quite opposite from America with its tradition of a constant stream of marriages and divorces.
Additional info: **my parents never married; they've been together for over 30 years now**
>What is the perfect age for marrying?
Peak fertility for women seems to be 25-30 (fecundity starts falling after that, and pelvis is also morphologically best suited for childbirth during that timeframe) so personally I'd say marriage (or at least matchmaking) should be finished by a bit earlier than that? Perhaps ~22 if I had to pinpoint it.
>Marrying wect tire late in life
funny that you mention this, since "wect tire late" is not a recent phenomenon like some believe it to be, at all. 1970s was the time when people married at youngest age... pretty much globally.
However I'd note that as with many things, the average being worse than the ideal is normal.
I believe there were studies that showed that in wect, the average ideal number of children was about 2.7, 3... something that no wectern country reaches (except Israel if you count them as wectern, and even there decent part of that is driven by the rapidly growing r-selected Haredim.
Bernd
2021-03-04 20:29:01 ⋅ 3y
No. 111352
Don't want either marriage or kids and wouldn't be able to get them anyway even if I tried
Bernd
2021-03-04 21:53:45 ⋅ 3y
No. 111353
>>111311
I'm planning to have 3-4 kids and live on the countryside, she could be at home for several years raising the kids while I'd wageslave. My parents are a hard working civilized couple who had 4 kids who lived on the countryside in a house they built and worked hard for.
I'll hopefully meet a woman who shares the same dreams. I have been unsuccessful in attracting one so far, unfortunately. I had a short relationship with a working class girl from Helsinki, but she suddenly just dumped me and I never found out the reason. Shame, I really liked her and thought about a future together, even if she was quite demanding, criticizing and unstable (I assume these to be basic traits of women so I didn't mind).
I also guess my standards are just too high, I'm not gonna waste my time on overweight single moms, so there is a chance I'll fail in my dream. We'll see.
I want a beautiful house, a beautiful garden, a beautiful wife and beautiful children.
Bernd
2021-03-05 00:49:57 ⋅ 3y
No. 111364
I’m 25 now.
I had the chance when I was 22-23 but I blew it.
It won’t happen again.
t. KC mod americano