Bernd
2021-10-04 09:46:44 ⋅ 3y
No. 123936
First session with psychotherapist tomorrow.
Bernd
2021-10-04 09:50:09 ⋅ 3y
No. 123937
Enjoy your motivation interviews.
Bernd
2021-10-04 09:57:47 ⋅ 3y
No. 123938
>>123937
What's that?
Bernd
2021-10-04 10:04:46 ⋅ 3y
No. 123939
>>123938
Motivationsgespräche - i didn't know how to translate it correctly.
They will motivate you doing things in whatever you interest.
Bernd
2021-10-04 10:15:22 ⋅ 3y
No. 123940
How long have you been waiting for an appointment?
Bernd
2021-10-04 10:17:54 ⋅ 3y
No. 123942
How long have you been waiting for an appointment? What kind of therapy? I guess CBT?
Bernd
2021-10-04 10:25:28 ⋅ 3y
No. 123943
Bernd
2021-10-04 13:57:04 ⋅ 3y
No. 123955
>>123942
Cuck and Bull Treatment?
Bernd
2021-10-04 14:20:43 ⋅ 3y
No. 123956
are you a crazy person? don't stab me
>>123955
hehe pwned
Bernd
2021-10-04 15:10:43 ⋅ 3y
No. 123962
>>123955
Cognitive behavioral therapy
Bernd
2021-10-04 15:24:10 ⋅ 3y
No. 123963
So why do you need therapy? Will you talk to a man or a woman? Do you have GF?
Bernd
2021-10-04 16:17:38 ⋅ 3y
No. 123972
there is man psychotherapist in ljubljana whom is redpilled
his therapy consists of taking his patients out and help them get laid
Bernd
2021-10-04 16:28:14 ⋅ 3y
No. 123973
>>123972
>ljubljana
>ljubljana
>ljubljana
Slav overload was had
Bernd
2021-10-04 16:37:30 ⋅ 3y
No. 123974
>>123972
can you get me an appointment with him?
t. pure
Bernd
2021-10-04 16:41:36 ⋅ 3y
No. 123975
>>123974
I can't even get it for myself
t. blackpilled
Bernd
2021-10-04 16:54:09 ⋅ 3y
No. 123976
Good luck.
Bernd
2021-10-05 00:20:13 ⋅ 3y
No. 123999
>>123972
I feel cheated after knowing I helped my former friends get laid just to do whirl some freshness into my life and I didn't even charge them.
Bernd
2021-10-05 00:49:02 ⋅ 3y
No. 124003
>>123999
How did you help them?
Bernd
2021-10-05 03:22:10 ⋅ 3y
No. 124007
>>124003
I'm good at meeting new people, so me and whichever buddy I'd help would just be silly on the streets and eventually like moths to a flame, women would turn up and I'd try making my friend (usually an autistic or neurotic fellow) appear reasonably normal. Problems were when the grills become indecisive because of two fine looking men playing games and we both lose. Still good fun, plus I like heckling and bantering with women before tossing them and finding another to renew that freshness.
Bernd
2021-10-05 06:06:00 ⋅ 3y
No. 124022
>>124007
>eventually they show up like moths to a flame
Sensei, unless you have 10/10 looks, please tell me your tricks to start talking to women on the street.
t. kein apprentice
Bernd
2021-10-05 06:36:00 ⋅ 3y
No. 124025
>>124022
>10/10 looks
It's don't and that's where your issue arises from. Insecurity stifles any confidence. As soon as you lose your immature behaviour about socializing, you'll soon realise how easy it is to start a conversation regardless of what you look like or what you're doing. Being in a high traffic area and having music also helps.
Bernd
2021-10-05 06:46:50 ⋅ 3y
No. 124027
>>124025
>having music
?
Bernd
2021-10-05 07:07:31 ⋅ 3y
No. 124029
>>124027
Create a vibe others want to join in on. Make the atmosphere come alive in your little bubble with an instrument or a speaker. Being approachable helps to foster a good mood everyone can relax in.
Bernd
2021-10-10 08:39:52 ⋅ 3y
No. 124508
how did it go bernd?
Bernd
2021-10-10 17:17:19 ⋅ 3y
No. 124530
>>124508
Basically I told her for 40 minutes why I came there and the session was only 45 minutes, so there wasn't much else happening. She said something about an issue that gave me a different perspective, which I liked, and I got another appointment next week.
Felt good, will continue.
Bernd
2021-10-16 02:06:12 ⋅ 3y
No. 124905
Last free session of uni psych helper today. I got lists with different types of therapists and need to call them to get an appointment now.
Should I try to get behavioural therapy or psychoanalysis? I kinda feel like psychoanalysis is Freud bs about penis envy and fugging moms.
Also: Psych helper (female) said I'm nice to talk to when I told her about my constant assumptions that everyone who gets to know me hates me.
Bernd
2021-10-16 02:17:03 ⋅ 3y
No. 124907
Bernd
2021-10-16 07:28:01 ⋅ 3y
No. 124918
>>124905
>behavioural therapy
Go this direction, bernd. It mostly consists of you working on self-improving instead of just talking to a nice person.
Bernd
2021-10-16 09:10:42 ⋅ 3y
No. 124929
>>124918
Sounds good, will do.
Bernd
2021-10-17 15:53:23 ⋅ 3y
No. 125017
Free uni guidance is over. I will start calling real therapists tomorrow and try to get an appointment.
Bernd
2021-10-24 19:40:13 ⋅ 3y
No. 125364
Still don't have an appointment with a proper therapist.
Bernd
2021-10-24 20:39:10 ⋅ 3y
No. 125365
Bernd
2021-10-24 21:06:28 ⋅ 3y
No. 125369
Are therapists worth it at all? Been considering seeing one but they feel like an absolute scam
Bernd
2021-10-24 21:14:54 ⋅ 3y
No. 125370
>>125365
Thanks. Maybe I'll take a look. I'm trying to focus on improving aspects of my life I already know need improvement first, though.
Today I have written an E-Mail to a therapist and I have marked the phone availability for two others in my calender for tomorrow. Now I'll set an alarm clock, get sleep and try to call them tomorrow morning as if I had a real job.
>>125369
Please, I do not want to have a kohlface discussion about "muh dumb woman with a college degree can't tell me anything". Health insurance pays for therapy, that must mean it is worth it, at least on average. I have already profited from some of the preliminary talks.
Bernd
2021-10-24 22:46:58 ⋅ 3y
No. 125381
>>125370
You're already changing yourself. Much of the help we receive from therapists is the emotional support, and the few tricks they've been taught to make the patient ensure they continue their positive patterns.
If you really want to improve your life, you'd could out imageboards and the vitriol breeding on certain sites. Life changes when you've stripped out media and shitposting from your life.
Bernd
2021-10-25 10:58:06 ⋅ 3y
No. 125391
Got an appointment now. But it is in 4 weeks. And then there will be preliminary talks again where I tell my problems to a new person. And after that we will have to apply for a proper therapy being paid for by the medical insurance. So it seems unrealistic that a real therapy will start before next year.
I was hoping to have professional support before starting projects in my life I'm a bit afraid of. But it seems like that is not a realistic option anymore. I'll have to start moving on my own if I don't want to look at a fully wasted year. We'll see how it goes.
Maybe I'll write a little diary here, I have some ideas about changed behaviour. One of them being: I need to stop creating a facade of a capable person who knows what they're doing. It hasn't served me well in the past. People always assume I'm super smart, organized and have my shit together. And then they're completely surprised when I fuck up and fail. I need to be more honest and look and ask for help whereever I can get it. Obviously I need to proceed carefully, because going too extreme on this is also not good. Nobody likes a whiny loser who asks for help all day.
Maybe I'll invest some time into reading >>125365 and other self-help literature and formulate a more detailed plan for myself.
>>125381
see >>125370
Bernd
2021-10-27 15:45:43 ⋅ 3y
No. 125576
So I just stumbled upon the term "ADHD paralysis" and have been reading up on it. It sounds really like one of the mental problems I have, even though nobody suspected that I might have ADHD or any similar thing. https://medium.com/invisible-illness/adhd-paralysis-is-frustratingly-real-heres-how-to-fix-it-20c630e07c4c
Now I'm wondering how I could get a diagnosis.
Bernd
2021-10-27 17:02:35 ⋅ 3y
No. 125593
>>125576
Does the diagnosis lead to welfare and drugs?
Bernd
2021-10-27 17:59:37 ⋅ 3y
No. 125597
>>125593
Fuck off.
Bernd
2021-10-27 18:25:39 ⋅ 3y
No. 125599
>>125597
It's a genuine question.
Bernd
2021-10-27 18:49:52 ⋅ 3y
No. 125601
>>125599
I have no idea.
Bernd
2021-10-27 18:58:50 ⋅ 3y
No. 125606
>>125601
Ah right, just clarifying my assumptions. A lot of Bernds before have used false pretenses to abuse their benefit systems.
Bernd
2021-10-27 19:01:10 ⋅ 3y
No. 125608
>>125606
Something like that is not going to get you neetbux I'm 99% sure and if you want neetbux on the germany you are basically not allowed to have any assets, so that's not an option I want to pursue in any way.
I just want to be able to finish my masters degree and get a job like a normal human bean but I'm too retarded to do so and I don't really know why.
Bernd
2021-10-27 19:08:59 ⋅ 3y
No. 125613
>>125608
Sounds like you're searching for excuses to justify your lifestyle. It may help better understand yourself or falsely veil yourself in a new set of mannerisms you feel compelled to act out.
Bernd
2021-10-27 19:47:11 ⋅ 3y
No. 125618
>>125613
No it doesn't. Fuck off.