I never had my first kiss before! Please tell me! How does it feel like? Do you feel the butterflies? What about the aftermath? Do you just know when you’re about to kiss?
Just had my first kiss not too long ago
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>How does it feel like?
It feels like something that was meant to be happening often except in my case it didn't happen often, felt like I spent a long time not locking lips with a significant other, something like a piece of puzzle that was left on its own for too long without connecting with others
>Do you feel the butterflies?
It felt really good, I must admit, and I cherish every single moment of it, but because it happened so late in life then there wasn't exactly butterflies but it felt amazing nonetheless
>What about the aftermath?
I feel a sense of being accepted by a person I am attracted to, like, everything leading up to it felt more meaningful because there was no longer any doubt about the connection that I sometimes felt like I was making up because of spending so long alone, assurance and love
>Do you just know when you’re about to kiss?
The body knows, the more you think about it the less natural it will feel, you need to just give in to your temptation to kiss the person and put as little effort into it as humanly possible, that way your body leads the way to pleasure in a way that couldn't have taken place if you spent too long thinking about things, primal instincts take over but in a more reserved way, it feels really good bernd I recommend it
>maybe she just wants to get to know you better without putting a label on it
I've thought about this too and I felt also that I was immature by asking her if we were gfs and bfs, I can feel that it is somewhat of a touchy subject to talk about and it would probably be best to let it naturally happen on its own without having too many expectations about such things
I'm 26 btw
>You will also most likely have sex before talking about a relationship
She definitely wants to have sex with me, but the main issue about this with me is that I am not sure if I want to have sex without there being any form of commitment, I am not too sure if I am ready
As much as I want to have sex, all things considered I really don't want my first time officially to be meaningless
I like her a lot, though, and it seems like she is feeling the same way I feel but I really want to have a relationship with her beforehand
Is this cringe and naive to think? I feel like I am putting myself on the line by having sex like that.
It's not that big of a thing really, it's just like kissing advanced... If you ask me you shouldn't look at it like some sort of official ceremony or event. But maybe just bee yourself and stay real to your feelings, and be open about it and communicate it, most likely she will find it cute. Does she know you are a virgin? If not, I think you should talk to her about if it starts getting obvious that heatenings are in the room
>Does she know you are a virgin? If not, I think you should talk to her about if it starts getting obvious that heatenings are in the room
I'm not a virgin, I have however not have had real sex per se except some fooling around when I was younger. This was over 10 years ago, however, and I gained no experience from having done those things in my youth, so I might as well have been a virgin even if I am not.
I also just feel like because I haven't really explored my sexuality in my life so far I feel like I need to live up to a certain standard of manhood and by not having sex I am sort of like a failure of a man. Conquests and such, play a big part in the confidence of a man, but at the same time I don't want to do something like I am trying to live up to something, I think those motives are shallow and not very genuine.
I'm starting to warm up about the idea, thanks for the help bernd.
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Emotions run wild, the most prevalent feeling I felt was a form of acceptance that I had desired for many years to have. Kissing makes you feel like you belong to that person, like becoming one person instead of two individuals. I felt like my soul was embracing hers and vice versa, it can be compared to something like having something in common with someone else, like a connection that is hard to put into words. You not only connect with the person physically, but emotionally you become more attached to the person you are doing it with. Intertwining, you feel yourself but also the other person, the complete opposite of something like loneliness. You feel like you could conquer the entire world but at the same time you feel like you don't have to, because you are getting enough recognition already just by interacting with someone in that way. It feels like you can be set free from everything you could possibly have done wrong in your life, a sense of accomplishment that is also there, like you have managed to do something right in your life for once, something that paid off not only momentarily but for a longer period of time too. It makes you feel whole, as opposed to feeling like you are lacking something from life. It can be difficult to describe exactly how it is to someone who hasn't done it, but when you see it happening in stuff like movies, imagine it being that good, except much better in real life. It makes you feel human, like someone that is worthy of life, instead of some sort of outcast with not very much in common with other people. You identify with eachother, on an emotional level, you feel as if life is worth living and that there are things in life that are worth a lot more than you could ever possibly have imagined before doing it. It's a small gesture, but the results are life-changing, at least for me.